Did you know that over 75% of teens aged 16-17 report that
obtaining marijuana is 'easy or fairly easy?' Or that 25% of
youths between 12 and 17 say the same of crack? Drug use can
lead to a host of significant health, social, learning and
behavioral problems at a crucial time in a young person's
development. Getting high also impairs judgment, leading to
risky decision making on issues like sex, criminal activity or
riding with someone who is driving high. Because experts in
substance abuse claim that parents are the principal influence
on their teenager's decision to use drugs, the message needs to
start with you. Research tells us that kids who maintain an open
and honest line of communication are far less likely to
experiment with drugs and alcohol. Many parents neglect to
broach the subject primarily because they are unsure how to
begin. If you would like to start a dialogue with your teen,
begin by educating yourself on the different types of drugs
available and the risks and dangers of each. Use television
programs, anti-drug commercials, or news about drugs to help you
introduce the subject in a relaxed, natural way. Then: §Be
absolutely clear with your kids that you don't want them using
drugs. Ever. Anywhere. Don't leave room for interpretation. §Be
a better listener. Ask questions and encourage them. Paraphrase
what your child says to you. Ask for your children's input about
family decisions. §Give honest answers. Some parents who used
drugs in the past choose to lie about it, but they risk losing
their credibility if their children discover the truth. This
does not mean that you need to recount every moment of your
experience - some details should remain private. §Ask clarifying
questions to make sure you understand exactly what your child is
asking, and why, before answering questions about your past drug
use, and limit your response to that information. §Don't react
in a way that will cut off further discussion. If your child
makes statements that challenge or shock you, turn them into a
calm discussion of why your child thinks people use drugs, or
whether the effect is worth the risk. §Role-play with your child
and practice ways to refuse drugs and alcohol in different
situations. Acknowledge how tough these moments can be. §Repeat
the message. To further help your child resist the traps of drug
and alcohol addiction, experts suggest that you remain current
on the drug market and street lingo, set effective guidelines
and rules, strengthen your relationship with your child's
school, and be a good role model for your teen. For more advice,
or to locate the right treatment facility for you, call the
Center for Substance Abuse Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP.
About the author:
Nicole Brownfield 71 County Road 269 Stevenson, AL 35772 (256)
437-8788 jnb8788@aol.com
Author: Nicole Brownfield
Date December 7th, 2009
Filed in Home and Family